funeral

After the initial news of the death of someone you knew and loved, there are some important things that need to be done. These are two of the more immediate things:

  1. Register the death.
  2. Meet a Funeral Director.

The Funeral Director will talk to you about what kind of funeral you would like.

One of the first questions they’ll ask is whether you’d like a burial or a cremation. You might like to discuss this with other family members if you’re not sure what the preference was of the person who died.

You’ll then be asked where you would like the service to be held. There’s more you can find out about locations on this site.

The Funeral Director will ask about various details, including:

  • Whether the funeral should be civil, humanist or religious. Remember you don’t have to be religious or a churchgoer to have a Church of England funeral – it is open to all.
  • Whether there is a particular minister or celebrant you have in mind to take the funeral.l
  • What sort of coffin you would like.
  • How you would like the coffin to be transported to the service.
  • Whether you would like flowers.
  • They might ask whether you have any thoughts on music or other special ideas to reflect the life of the person you knew. The person who leads the service will talk to you more about this.

If you choose to have a Church of England funeral, someone from the church will visit you to listen to the story of the person you knew, and will go through all the details of the funeral service itself.

A Service for Everyone

From the moment you are in touch with us, throughout the funeral service and for as long as you need us afterwards, we are here for you.  Anyone can have a Church of England funeral, whether churchgoers or not.

When someone dies, we understand how difficult this can be.  There is so much to think about, but we can help you say your final goodbye in a way that really helps.

  • We will celebrate and give thanks to God for the unique life of the person you knew and loved
  • We can support you, your family and friends before, during and after the funeral with friendship and prayer, understanding your sadness and loss
  • And in this difficult time, our experienced, trained ministers can share a message of hope and comfort

We will be where you need us to be

A Church of England funeral can take place in any one of these locations:

  • At the crematorium
  • St an outdoor woodland or green burial site
  • In a church
  • In a cemetery

Someone from the church will visit you to hear about the person you knew, and will go through all the details of the funeral service itself.

The Service

Wherever you choose to have the funeral, you can add a personal touch to reflect the unique life of the person you know:

Arrival. When the coffin arrives and is carried into the venue or onto the burial site, your choice of music may be played.

Remembering a unique life.  When everyone is gathered, a hymn may be sung.  There is time to listen to the story of the person you knew and loved.  You, another friend or relative, or the church minister can do this.  It may include readings which reflect the character and interests of hyour loved one.

A message of hope.  The minister will speak about God’s promises – of the hope that death is not the end.  You can choose the Bible reading for this part of the service.

Reflecting and remembering.  In a time of reflection, music can be played, or silence may be kept.  Prayers will be said at this point too.  There may be other ways you would like to make the service unique.  Photos, flowers, or items that had special meaning can be included.

Saying goodbye. It will then be time for the farewell.  The minister will pray, asking God to keep your loved one in his care, using words that have been used for centuries.  This may be a very emotional moment.  It may be possible to have some special music played at this point.  The minister will say a blessing and music may be played as the mourners leave the venue.

After the funeral.  Immediately afterwards you will be with your family and friends.  But as the days and weeks go by, the church will also be here for you.  When the time is right, you may need to place ashes in their final resting place.  The church minister can offer brief words and prayers specially for this.  Or it may be appropriate to have a memorial service.  The church minister will help you do what is best for you.

The Cost. Church Commissioners raise the fee each year.  For 2016 the cost for the funeral service is £178.

Further information can be found at churchofenglandfunerals.org

St. Faith’s Funeral Service Registers

The funeral service registers at St. Faith’s are deposited in the Portsmouth Records Office where they can be viewed.  Burials would normally be in Warblington cemetery which is council controlled and Havant Borough Council should hold records of names.  Ashes are either interred there or at Porchester, Chichester or Havant crematoriums who should have a record of names.